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How to be wise

Being Wise.

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Writing about being wise is probably a foolish thing to do! Images of deeply silent or laughing teachers, aware and present in every moment and flowing with what just is, rather than how we would like things to be, float around in my mind. They have mysterious smiles hovering around their lips as if they have realized the ultimate meaning of life, happiness and the truth of everything in the Universe makes me feel as if wisdom is not actually about talking about being wise. However, in the spirit of learning and sharing, here are some things that I do know.

Knowing we don’t know, is the beginning of being wise. Practice getting comfortable sitting in the unknown. The gold is in the unknown because that is where our mental and psychological growth is.
If you want to go fast, go deep.You can’t fix anyone or change anyone else. Process Psychology and therapy can support you to discover and follow your own process. Then you have a deeper psychological understanding of yourself and new skills so you can deal with everything that happens in your life.
Keep it simple. “If you can’t explain it to a 6 year old, you don’t understand it.” Einstein.
The wise know that simplicity is extraordinary. Complications just ‘muddy the water’ and confuse you.
Less is more. Don’t bring in unnecessary stories and complexities. “Don’t use a lot when a little will do.” Also don’t overwork yourself. If whatever you are doing isn’t going well, take a break and come back to it. Dream about it and explore all your options and maybe you will find a new direction that works better for you.
Get really specific.  Keep asking until you understand. It’s not because you are not wise that you don’t ‘get it.’ Its because it’s not clear yet to you and we are all different in how we understand things.

“Wonder is the beginning of wisdom.” Socrates.


Change your perception by changing your perspective. How you think and feel is conditioned by your upbringing and history. Your perception is limited by this. If you have a much larger perspective, you see and realize things you haven’t before. It’s like seeing a view from a mountain top rather than from the ground. Suddenly your mind is more open and expansive and you find new possibilities.
Being wise comes from experience. Open to as many different experiences as you can. True wisdom doesn’t come from books, though reading and study is also important. It comes from going through life with an open mind and heart.
Be inspired, creative and trust yourself and your wisdom will manifest.
Take it easy. It’s not rocket science.
Breathe. You only have this moment actually.
Learn how to chill under pressure. The river doesn’t get stressed or give up flowing because it has a long way to reach the sea and has big rocks to navigate around. It doesn’t get upset because the wind lifts it up and transforms it into clouds and then rain to fall a long way from where it started. It just keeps flowing on.
If you are wise, you will learn from change. What makes change possible is to deeply know that change is possible. As it is, everything changes all the time anyway, everything is impermanent. If you learn from change, it means you have learnt to let go and to embrace what is happening now.

“Wise souls speak loudly in silence.”


Know time is an edge, 
or an obstacle. You want to do something but you can’t do it quite yet. “I’ll do it one day” One day is today, this moment! Do it now as there is never really a ‘right time.’ The time is Now!
Life is a process, not a destination. Don’t push the river, follow all the subtle eddies and flows. The journey itself is the path and the destination.
Bring your awareness to each moment as much as you can. In this way, no matter how you feel, whether you are angry or upset or feeling happy with a wise and friendly heart, you will know you are living each moment of your life in a true and honest way as it is, rather than always wanting it to be different.
“Honoring your truth is the way to freedom.”

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About the Author
Sherry (BSc. Sociology; MAA. Social Work, AMHSW; Masters Science Soc. Ecology; Diplomate, Process Psychology) is a faculty Director of ANZPOP.

She has offered expert psychological counselling in Australia and overseas since 1989. Sherry is currently based in both the Sydney CBD and on the Northern Beaches near Manly. She also offers national and international phone and Skype appointments.

If you would like more information or wish to reference something you have read on this website please contact Sherry.

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