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 The Thoughts in your Mind are just that. Thoughts.

Are you in charge of your mind or is your mind in charge of you? The thoughts in your mind are just that. Thoughts. You think they are you because that is how we are conditioned. You remember an argument you had or that you don’t have enough money to do what you want and then the emotions turn up. Sadness, anger, upset,  anxiety, depression etc. We follow our thoughts in our mind without even realizing it.

Of course, if you follow your thoughts very consciously and decide to process them, this is what we do in Process Oriented Psychology and therapy. The difference is we make a conscious choice to work with our thoughts and feelings. But most of the time, we just get caught up with the thousands of thoughts that go through our mind every day. We not only give them lots of time, attention and energy, but we also make up lots of stories, good and bad.


You may think, for example; “oh that girl/guy working in my building looked at me in the lift this morning in a really sweet way. Maybe he likes me. I wonder if I’ll see him in the tea room later. But I’m too shy to say something to him. Anyway, he is probably married with a kid or maybe he just broke up with someone. He looks too attractive to be single. Perhaps I’ll try and find him on a dating site tonight. How can I find out his name, I wonder? I could ask Susie. She knows most people working here.

But anyway, he probably won’t be interested in me. I’m too young/old and I need to lose some weight. It’s a New Year. Perhaps I should sign up at the gym. Why is it so hard to meet someone who is interested in more than just a ‘hook up.’ Christmas and New Year was difficult with most of my friends in couples now.

Or,  why can’t I leave my relationship/marriage. I don’t even like him/her sometimes. I could meet someone new that I’m more compatible with……” And so our mind just runs away all the time with all our ‘stuff’. Then we really believe what we are thinking and get stuck in those thoughts for weeks and years.


This 2 MINUTE U-Tube sums up the Essence of how to work with your thoughts. You could say its the core of Buddhism and therapy in every day language. Simple to understand, profound in its wisdom, entertaining and upbeat in its delivery. Also check out his ‘How to stop an argument’ on U-Tube and ‘How to be Happy.’ True and hilarious. Jewels of wisdom in an unexpected package.

Just click on the arrow and short video will start.

About the Author
Sherry (BSc. Sociology; MAA. Social Work, AMHSW; Masters Science Soc. Ecology; Diplomate, Process Psychology) is a faculty Director of ANZPOP.

She has offered expert psychological counselling in Australia and overseas since 1989. Sherry is currently based in both the Sydney CBD and on the Northern Beaches near Manly. She also offers national and international phone and Skype appointments.

If you would like more information or wish to reference something you have read on this website please contact Sherry.

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